My husband and I got married in February 2012 on the beautiful island of Mauritius. We had always decided that we would start trying for a baby as soon as we were married and were convinced that I would be pregnant within a few months, at the worst. It worked out that I was ovulating over our wedding so our hopes were high that I would come home with a bun in the oven.
February came and went and no baby insight. Our hopes were still high.
We manually calculated when I would be ovulating the next months and tried our hardest to fall pregnant with a little boy. This basically means you do the deed just before ovulation as the sperm carrying the male gene swim the fastest but don’t live as long as the sperm carrying the female gene. If you were trying for a little girl you would do the deed 2-3 days before ovulation as the sperm carrying the male gene would die off before the egg is released.
March, and April came and went, no success.
We then decided to ditch playing God, and we would have sex every day during the week of ovulation. I started using Ovulation Predictor Kits (OPK) to confirm when I ovulated to ensure we weren’t miss calculating the days.
After 4 months of trying, my patience started to wear thin and this was only the beginning!
Month 5 (June 2012) I decided to see my gynae to check out what was going in. My gynae is a dear old man who is very sweet and caring. He did an internal scan and confirmed everything was looking in order and I should have no trouble in conceiving. I asked when my hubby should be sent off for testing and to his horror he advised me that only after trying for more than 12 months should my husband get tested. (note to everyone trying to conceive BOTH get test as soon as you start trying as you might waste precious time and there may be a problem).
We persevered on for July and August and at the end of August we were starting to loose our marbles with the constant waiting and not knowing what’s going on with our bodies. We decided that my husband would go for a sperm analysis. Now for most men the thought of going for a sperm analysis can be absolutely terrifying or it could be quite excited if the movies are anything to go by. Its like being given permission to go and enjoy yourself in a comfy room with porn videos and interesting magazines. WELL to my husband shock and horror it was NOTHING like in the movies.
On arrival he was given a key and told to find the door down the stair well. This is what he found:
Anyway thankfully he managed to do his business and after 5 days wait, the results were in. His sperm count was good, his motility (the way they move) was good but his morphologhy (their shape) was bad. His morphology was 3% and the norm is 14%. This was not good news. We called the doctor back to find out what could be done to improve this and much to his dismay that we had gone ahead on our own accord and done the test, he advised that my husband take Stamino Grow or Sperm Aid which would improve the quality of his sperm. He was to do this for 8 weeks and go for a rest. In November he went back for his retest and it was good news, his morphology was up to 20%. We were delighted that we had found ‘the problem’ which had now been resolved. We were good to go and our baby was getting closer.
Another month went by and NOTHING.
I went back to the gynae at the end of November and we decided we would try Clomid. Clomid is used in 2 situation, the first is when a woman is not ovulating as this stimulates ovulation and the 2nd which was my case is when a woman is ovulating it helps to develop bigger eggs and more of them thus increasing your chances of falling pregnant. I was prescribed 50mg of Clomid to be taken on Day 2-6 of my cycle. On Day 21 I was to go for a Progesterone test to see whether the Clomid had worked. My progesterone levels after Day 21 were low and the Clomid hadn’t had the desired effect. Aunt flo came and went.
Month 12 (Dec/Jan) it was decided that we would double the dose to 100mg and see whether that worked. My Day 21 Progesterone test results came back and they were excellent and the doctor was very happy. I went in for an ultrasound to measure my follicles and I had one very nice big follicle measuring 24mm. Things were looking positive. OPK was positive now for the spermies to fertilise that nice big egg . . . . NOTHING!
Month 13 (Jan/Feb) another 100mg of Clomid. OPK negative, spotting from Day 8-12. Disaster of a month and my body didn’t seem to be agreeing with this Clomid.
Just to note we has now been trying for THIRTEEN MONTHS! I don’t think I could ever find the words to describe to you how long 13 months feel when you are trying to have a baby.